Somewhere on this heart-wrenching journey of betrayal and coercion, there’s a click. A searing flash of clarity that cauterizes the bleeding open wounds in your heart.

You have this unmistakable flash of realization that the person you thought they were — and the relationship you’ve been fighting to save — doesn't even exist (and maybe it never did?)

It’s this moment when your rational brain finally grasps what is true…
They are never going to change — not because they cannot… but because they will not.

In that moment, it hits you that this truth is guaranteed to alter the shape of your family structure.

It’s 100% going to impact the trajectory of your kids’ entire childhood...

…and there’s exactly nothing you can do to stop it, because you aren’t the one driving this train off the tracks.

The only option you have is to choose right now what YOU will do next. To decide which wise, safe, strategic steps YOU will take to minimize the emotional and psychological and spiritual wreckage to the best of your ability.

You acknowledge that the other parent COULD have chosen to be different, chosen to be healthy... but not even doing it for the kids was motivation enough.

They could have, but they just... didn't.

They chose themselves instead.

There’s a special kind of grief when it feels like your person is dead, even though they're standing right there in front of you.

Because you aren't free to grieve, and you don't get the closure of a funeral. Nobody sits vigil with you. Nobody fills your freezer with casseroles.

You just have to keep going.

You keep going for the sake of your children.
You keep going for the sake of your sanity.

You keep going, in faith that on the other side of this there will someday be life again... there will be joy and delight again... there will be goals to dream for again.

Someday.

You put one foot in front of the other, one step at a time, until you get there.

And… eventually… you WILL come back to life again.

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